Do you remember this story? Whichever way a mother chose to raise her child, none could satisfy him, and he would still grow up unhappy…
We are lifelong little vulnerable children who, at a certain point, come to feel disappointed and devalued by life. And then we look for someone to blame for our unhappiness. As a rule, our parents are the ones to blame. They were the ones who did not love us enough, who did not want us to be anything. And then we either close ourselves off from them, and if they are gone, we cannot forgive or forget our offenses. All that is left is for us to feel sorry for ourselves, to tell our unhappy life to the therapist, to take it out on our partner or, even worse, on our children, because we certainly don’t want the same for them.
But history repeats itself over and over again…
Why does this happen? Why is the human psyche so vulnerable and unable to repair itself?
If you look at it from the point of view of generic processes, there are many generic scenarios in our psyche that we are forced to functionally replay: resentment against a parent, a battered child, a devalued childhood.
The scenarios are activated at difficult times in a person’s life, usually when you need to really take responsibility for your life, to be an adult. Sometimes the psyche simply does not have enough of its own resources and the so-called ” children’s position” is activated. Many adults remain little children all their lives.
Does this make them happy or successful? The answer is obvious. No. It does not, because a person in such a position is in a state of unloving or deficiency. From this point he cannot create anything, he wants only to be given.
Can such a man give something to his children if he lacks love? I don’t think so.
Have you ever thought about that? How much love you have that you can simply give to your loved ones without being emptied or depleted. Give out of abundance, because the flow of true love is like a living inexhaustible spring that can feed everyone.
How do you stop being an unloved child?
The GSR method is based on the flow of life, and provides a unique opportunity for such a deep workout and transformation of the psyche, an exit from a deficit into a resource. However, practice shows that it is not easy for a person to take such an opportunity, because they will have to admit their weakness, vulnerability, surrender, open up, and show their pain.
After the processing the person has to rebuild himself, to educate himself, to create himself and everything around him: relationships with his partner, children, on a new, adult level, without grudges, claims, fears. And then it will be another story, a story that you can create yourself, in a new way. And it will come in a new form to your children and descendants.
I invite you to my GSR project “Harmony of Life.
Here you can get what you haven’t been able to get for years in other practices.
You can discover love in yourself, and find your true self. Learn to live in harmony with your present self.
©Translated for GSR World by Ruzilya Nureeva
