Until a certain moment, I thought I didn’t have any problems with my eldest son…
Then with puberty incoming and girls drawing his attention the word dating came into his world
But before that he started behaving differently, making me think that I might have problems with him. He became aggressive. shouting, swearing, threatening, and which is more unpleasant – fighting with his younger sister and brother, who were totally defenseless against him. By that moment I already realized that suppressing such “deviant behavior”, a tactic though convenient. cost-effective and popular, yet reminding me of something like ignoring the time bomb, because you never know when and where it’s going to blast, so I decided to sort it out myself, looking for a constructive and effective solution.
Perhaps most of the parents would take their kids to a therapist, but since I have the skill of working with my inner states with GSR module 1. I decided to take this into my own hands. Maybe I should make myself clear – most of the time, when a parent observes some deviant behavior in a child, usually it’s all about the parents. What is something that other practices and methods agree on, indicating that a child is very deeply influenced by his parents, so I decided to work on myself in order to solve the problem of aggression of my eldest son.
I did one session, which took me about an hour and a half maybe and I noticed that on the one hand, I could delicately yet on the other hand promptly intervene and split ‘em, like running with the hair and hunting with the hounds, but my eldest son’s behavior was pretty much the same and I was not okay with it.
And then I looked into the situation more openly and honestly, and I saw that his behavior was just another problem that distracted me from my business, from my stuff, meaning that without these problems I wouldn’t even bother with him I could forget about him just checking from time to time whether he had everything he needed to keep on living… thus there was no such thing as interest in him…
I remembered that long ago when my oldest son had been the only son, long before I had been introduced to GSR, while discussing this attitude towards my son with a therapist I had noticed that he had been more like a brother to me than a son, is if I had been the eldest brother who unwillingly due to certain circumstances became the head of the family, but still distant, all on his own, and back then I had got the answer to my question, that it couldn’t have been changed and I even shouldn’t have tried that I should have just accepted it and find a way to live with it.
But now knowing that I can change a lot of things through working with my inner states with GSL module 1 even though it might seem impossible to change I did a session on my own distant cold attitude towards my eldest son and the result of the session, which again I did myself within an hour maybe an hour and a half, was that I started having some warm feeling towards him.
And I felt it so strong during the first hours and days as if it’d finally found its way into my heart. I wanted to call him and tell him that I love him, not because I was worried, not because I felt the fragility of our own lives and our relationship, but just because I wanted to share with him something that I found inside of me.
After that, I did a few more works which resulted in a change of the style of interacting with my son. The most vivid of which was that I built up my relationship with my son based on the concept that life is an unpredictable sequence of bad news, troubles, and sometimes even tragedies, that we always have to be prepared to accept submissively.
And it’s not only that it was some sort of my silent edification, but that I perceived my own life like this and seeing what I transmitted to him helped me understand how I actually lived.
Like the constant feeling that there is no real happiness in life – it can only drop in on a visit before bad news, troubles, or “men in boots” come to your house …
A month ago I wrote some notes about what kind of problems I came across in the deviant behavior of my eldest son. I specifically got back and read through those notes, because honestly I even forgot the fact it’s all of this started with a problem, meaning that I didn’t just stop focusing on it – it stopped happening. My son doesn’t manifest that aggression towards the younger ones and that didn’t take any negotiation, threatening or educating – just working with myself using module 1.
And I also think that feeling that I became more attentive to him he started opening up to me more often. And summarizing for myself these notes, observing this matter for the last month I understand that it’s… I have a feeling that words like cool, great, marvelous don’t fit in here…
Priceless… priceless like the life, like the time, like something you can’t buy for all the money of the world.
Yes, you can buy a session from a GSR specialist. Yes, you can buy just GSR module 1 online course but the changes in your life that you can get using it are priceless.
Getting to know GSR method, learning it, and start changing one’s own life with it, is choosing a world full of opportunities. A choice that becomes possible right from the moment one understands that there is such an opportunity.
And I kind of think that I really understand just a small tiny part of those opportunities that are there.
I can change my life by solving any problem and going after goals that I thought were impossible to achieve and I was so convinced about it that I had even stopped thinking about them, but what is more interesting, all of this you can do yourself…
